Un complex este o îndoială care se transformă în suferință.
E normal să te îndoiești de tine și să nu fi întru totul satisfăcut(ă) de ansamblul caracteristicilor tale. Dar complexul depășește cu mult stadiul insatisfacției ocazionale. El este focalizarea dureroasă și obsedantă, constantă sau foarte frecventă, a ansamblului gândurilor noastre asupra unei părți a corpului, considerată dizgrațioasă, sau a unei dimensiuni a personalității noastre, considerată insuficientă sau inadecvată, și care va perturba binele nostru moral și comportamentul social. De pe urma acestui fapt suferă toată stima de sine, dar starea de rău se concentrează asupra complexului.
Putem fi complexați de orice
Există complexe de „prea mult(ă)” ( grăsime, păr), de „nu îndeajuns de mult(ă)” (celulită, înălțime, mușchi), de „nu e cum ar trebui” etc. Ne putem focaliza deopotrivă pe defectele presupuse ale caracteristicilor noastre psihice: lipsa de cultură, de inteligență, de vivacitate de spirit etc. Te poți complexa când admiri pe cineva și-ți lași libere gândurile negative despre tine însuți: nu te mulțumești să admiri, ci te compari defavorabil și te acuzi că nu ești la înălțime în dimensiunea comparată. Aceste complexe sunt un teren nesfârșit de suferințe. Ele sunt mai puțin spectaculoase decât complexele fizice, dar uneori și mai dăunătoare. Ele dovedesc certitudinea, obscură și dureroasă, a unei „insuficiențe de sine”.
Ce anume trebuie să evităm
Ca toate problemele legate de stimă de sine, complexele, oricare le-ar fi sursa lor, sunt agravate și cronicizate de atitudini de supunere și de demisie față de fricile vehiculate de insatisfacția de sine. Tot ce merge deci în sensul complexului trebuie combătut:
Ce este adecvat
Nu există „o” soluție care să vindece infailibil complexele, ci un ansamblu de eforturi care, puse cap la cap, vor face să se retragă încetul cu încetul complexul sau, cel puțin, manifestările sale excesive:
Cu cât te-ai arătat mai talentat în arta de-a te preface, cu atât te pomenești mai prins în capcană de complexele pe care le ai, ca un mincinos de minciunile sale. Acest lucru trebuie știut, deoarece deseori el este cel care te blochează, odată ce ești hotărât și motivat să scapi de complexe.
Articol inspirat din cartea scrisă de Christophe André „Imperfecți, liberi și fericiți”
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